Verses
- If a man and a woman respect each other and accept the differences between them, their love flourishes.
- A man’s self-confidence depends on his ability to produce results.
- Men expect women to behave like men and, on the other hand, women expect men to behave like women.
- When a woman realizes that a man does not reject her needs but only her way of expressing them, she may take it less personally and find more appropriate forms of expression.
- Male and female languages use the same words, but men interpret them differently.
- Never disapprove of a woman if she needs to be looked after. Also, do not disapprove of a man if he needs to withdraw.
- Also a man who loves has to draw back from a woman occasionally in order to come up to her later on.
- If a man does not get a chance to draw back from a woman, he will never have a chance to feel a strong desire to come up to her.
- A man’s need for intimacy alternates with his need for independence.
- If a man withdraws, a woman doubts his love. If he does not withdraw, it is he who doubts his love.
- A wise woman does not expect a man to be particularly talkative and asks him only for attention. In this way she does not put pressure on him. She learns how to share her feelings openly without expecting the same from him.
- When a man satisfies his partner’s need for attention and compassion, she will satisfy his need for freedom.
- If we want to experience positive feelings, such as love, happiness, trust and gratitude, we need to experience anger, sadness, fear and pain from time to time as well.
- The best way to help a man is to give up the attempts to change him.
- A quarrel over any reason turns in no time into a quarrel over the way in which the arguments are used.
- It is not the content of the statements that hurts, but the way it is expressed.
- Expressing and sharing our true feelings opens the door to intimacy through which love enters into our lives.
- It is a good sign if a man grumbles. It means that in his mind he tries to match your request with his needs.
- Bitter memories of being disappointed and rejected arise just when we feel safe and comfortable, when we trust our partner and are aware of his or her love.
- Due to repressed feelings from childhood we interpret each comment our partner makes as a blame, criticism and reproach. Only 10 per cent of our reaction refers to the partner’s comment, while 90 per cent refers to our past.
- Love knows all seasons.
- Spring – everything is wonderful and there is no trouble. The partner seems ideal. Without much effort, we float together in harmony and enjoy the moments of happiness.
- Summer – it is not that easy any more to express love nor to have it returned. We have to realize that it is impossible to be always friendly and loving. In the summer of love we have to foster our partner and ask him or her to do the same.
- Autumn – time to enjoy the love we have grown together.
- Winter – time to rest, contemplate and recover. Time to grow in solitude and seek answers within ourselves, not in the partner. Time to heal, during which a man hibernates in his cave, while a woman dwells in her valley of feelings.
- After having been healed and having strengthened the love for yourself, spring inevitably comes back ...